The sage would answer all the questions that people asked him but would not offer them unsolicited advice. Having given a well considered piece of advice in response to a specific request, he would not insist that it be followed. One day the discussion was on parenting, and knowing that the sage’s children had grown […]


The highly competent and capable senior manager in a multinational company explained how he valued people’s appreciation.  “That helps me do my work well. When my boss is happy with me it makes my day. If he is upset or angry I am down all day. It’s the same story at home.”  “You have mortgaged […]

Mr God, this is Dylan

We were working with clay during the morning. The finished products were drying happily waiting to be painted. Later on during religion class the word punishment reared its ugly head. I knew they had an image of an angry God so I asked them about their images. The final analysis was of an angry father […]

Peace Comes from Facing Reality

A visitor, distressed by many painful life events, was searching for peace. He had tried religion, meditation and psychotherapy, but none of that had helped. He wanted to get away from it all and be at peace. “Your conflict is between what is and what is not,” the sage explained to him. “You are trying […]

The Ego Takes Credit and Blame

A little boy sat comfortably, quite content and pleased with the world, while his grandfather pushed his buggy uphill in the sprawling beautiful park. The gentle old man had a lot more love and good will than energy as he struggled upward. “What are you doing, young fellow?” I asked the boy. “I’m doing my […]


The sage was injured in a car crash and had a leg in a cast. One of his visitors asked, “Are you suffering like everyone else or are you somehow spared all that?” “There is pain but no suffering,” the sage replied. They were intrigued. The sage explained that his body was like anyone else’s. […]


The sage was known to be compassionate to people who suffered. At the same time he refused to help those who would not do their part to resolve their problems. He would be direct and unsparing in his responses to them. “Sometimes compassion comes in the form of a kick in the rear,” is how […]


A woman said that after many struggles and heartbreaks she was finally happy. “I wish I could keep it this way and never lose it.” “Try not to possess it, only let it be present,” the sage suggested. “The shores don’t own the ocean, nor the river banks the water that passes between them. Happiness […]


The day’s newspapers and television carried reports of a well-known religious leader in a war ravaged country, movingly cry out, “God, where were you when innocent people were massacred? Why were you silent?” The sage was not impressed. “This is only sentimental drama to deflect his own remorse,” he remarked. “The fool doesn’t realise that […]


A man had squandered his wealth for several years. He neglected his family, health and well being. Friends and relatives had tried to help him but he continued on his downward spiral. “After all our efforts he has not budged one bit and I know he is suffering too,” a close friend acknowledged sadly. “When […]